I once moved into a new home. The previous owners had had a ten year old nephew staying with them. I heard he had 'gone off the rails' in some unspecified way. When I opened up the garage, a large board nailed to the far end revealed itself. On it were chalked in a childish hand the words "TO LOVE AND BE LOVED." I was struck to the spot, and overcome by a wave of huge sadness to think what kind of experiences a child of ten could have had that would plummet him to such depths of despair and profundity.
That was thirty years ago. In the interim, I have lived a bit of life, and learnt a few things.
And I've found out it's true. They are the two essential requirements and motivators of our lives:
The need to have someone to love; and to be loved back.
To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
- David Viscott How to Live with Another person.