'I'm always looking for the Hows and the Whys and the Whats,' said Muskrat, 'That is why I speak as I do. You've heard of Muskrat's Much-in-Little, of course?'
'No,' said the child. 'What is it?'
- The Mouse and his Child. Russell Hoban.

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Monday, 14 May 2012


Yesterday was Mother's Day in New Zealand.

My own Mum died about sixteen years ago, and although I can call her smiling face to mind any time I wish, the pain of loss has been blunted over the years.

The reason for this is not just the passage of time (which heals all things ... except old age, a condition which creeps inexorably on) but also because of the many wonderful women in my life since her death, that have, at times, acted in the capacity of mother.

By this I mean that they were 'there' for me at certain times when I needed advice, listening to, and physically holding.

(Now, I hasten to add that there are wonderful men in my life too, who have, and continue to have this role, not least my terrific, loving and patient partner of the last two years who has had a very soggy shoulder on a number of occasions, and also tired ears!)

But being Mothers' Day, I've been thinking about all the non-mother wonderful women (and girls) who have mothered me, and I realised that I want to acknowledge them.  Here are some of them. (At least a couple are very shy and I haven't photos of them!)

Aren't they all a fantastic bunch of people?  Aren't I lucky?

Thank you, all of you. From my heart.


  1. I recognise that young "mother" in the middle row! And yes you are lucky to have attracted so much kindness. Mind you, I guess you have given out your fair share too.

  2. Thank you YP. Yes, that is she. Actually, it's interesting that five of the 'mothers' above have not had children.

  3. Well the two that I know I admire. As I admire you as well and would trust your judgement I would think that you have a very admirable set of 'mothers'. How lucky you are. How lucky they are.

  4. Oops. I said two. I meant three though I have met four but don't really know the last one (and I can guess at a fifth). Life is so complicated.

  5. One of the problems with moderated comments is that one cannot just go and delete the first comment and start again!

  6. Life IS indeed complicated Geeb. And fascinating, as a result. I will never tire of it, I think. But, later, I may have to artificially simplify my corner of it.

  7. looks like a typical hen party night out in Halifax!! Nicely put Katherine.... a touching tribute indeed.


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